Why is decision-making an important skill to learn?


Decision-making and problem-solving goes hand-in-hand. One cannot be done without the other.
Thus both skills should be mastered to be effective.

Decisions could be something small or have a big impact on our lives especially as kids get older and make choices about their morals/values and career paths.
The decision-making process improves with maturity and experience.

Types of decisions

  • Making no decision
    Kids then allow their peers/siblings/parents/other adults to make decisions for them
  • Making impulsive decisions
    Kids sometimes take no time to consider the options – our impulsive/ADHD kids really struggle with making an impulsive decision and regretting their actions later
    Kids sometimes respond emotionally and not rationally (thinking about it cognitively)
  • Making responsible decisions
    Kids you use this way think about the consequences for them and those around them

Steps in making decisions

This forms an integral part of problem-solving and vice versa.

  • Identify the problem
    Break the problem down into smaller steps
    Is it just my problem or is other kids/people involved?
  • Time for introspection
    Ask yourself: What do I want?
    Is this in line with my morals/values? (for older kids)
    How will this decision affect me?
    How will this decision affect others?
    Will the problem be solved if I choose this decision?
  • Find more solutions
    If the kids first choice isn’t effective/doesn’t satisfied me/is harmful to others/is against my moral and values (for older kids) or doesn’t solve the problem I have to think of more decision-options
  • Make a choice
  • Implement the decision
    Remind the child that they need to take responsibility for their choice and the effect it has on himself and others
  • Was the decision successful
    Did it meet the needs/values/morals of the child?
    Did it solve the problem?
    If not – make another decision

How can I help my child?

  • Go through the above mentioned decision making process with your child
  • Allow your child to make their own decision
  • Allow your child to fail (in a protected environment)
  • Only help your child if they ask for your help or if you see the outcome will be hurtful to himself/herself or others
  • Guide your child rather than making the decision for him/her
  • Role-play: make up hypothetical situations and see which decision your child will make
  • Read them stories where decisions was made and what the consequences was
  • Set a good example when you as parents has to make a decision – admit when you made the wrong decision
  • Practice – experience – responsibility – maturity